Dementia

Jody Says

1. Instead of posing a question, try leading with “I remember when…’ instead. That way the person can search their memory calmly without feeling embarrassed, then join in if they like.
2. Try to be polite and as patient as possible. It’s important for somebody with dementia to feel they’re being listened to and understood.
3. It may be better to come up with another reason for somebody’s absence, while at other times a gentle reminder is appropriate. In the later stages of dementia, trying to remind them that the person has died is unlikely to work and may be best avoided.
4. Rather than, ‘what would you like to drink?’. You could ask “do you want tea or coffee?’ or more simply, ‘do you want a cup of tea?’.
5. The way you greet somebody with dementia might change depending on the stage of their condition – judge for yourself but, keep it friendly. A warm hello could suffice, or it may help to say your name.
6. Use short, simple sentences as much as possible. Avoid speaking in loud environments and wait until you have the person’s full attention before you start a conversation.
7. Always remember the person behind the dementia, using their name as often as appropriate. This helps keep their dignity intact and aids concentration too.

Remember though, it can be frustrating and tiring. Having a caregiver can give you the energy to deal with your loved ones who have been afflicted with dementia.